What is it inside the human brain that fuels the desire to plan for success? Is it the obvious fact that if you don’t plan to succeed, you are inevitably planning to fail?
That was really broad.
I’m talking about meal planning.
If we don’t go to the grocery store, how will we have food at home to eat? Do we prefer to eat at home? Or eat out? Eat out once a day? All 3 meals a day?
Wait, who is going to the grocery store?
All of us?
After work or on the weekend?
Why is this so complicated!?
My husband and I are responsible for feeding our 2 boys, dog and our cat. I’m addition to ourselves. It’s different now. Like so different.
Before I was a mother and wife, I ate out. A lot. Its difficult to prep, cook and cleanup for one single person. Three meals a day. I definitely ate out for lunch and dinner daily. It worked out for me. I was social and sharing meals with friends and family. Meeting new people and maintaining connections I valued. I rarely grocery shopped and almost never had dishes to clean.
Well… wasn’t that amazing.
Last time we went out to eat, was after our family Christmas photos. My one year old, Cody, ate the salsa that came with the chips freaked out and threw a tantrum not even 10 minutes in. My 6 year old , Connor, got 3 refills of soda and was too full by the time his chicken and fries came out to even eat more than 2 bites. My husband had 2 beers. I had so much anxiety about how loud, messy and chaotic the situation was. All I could think so do was shush everyone. My husband looked at me and could sense my anxiety. He has it to. The waitress is running by and he stops her and informs her that we need 2 boxes and the bill. We could not get out of there fast enough.
So, we don’t eat out. Like ever. We will pick up food or do takeout on the weekend a few times but for the most part, I cook. I feed us all.
I love having the control of what we eat. I love cooking healthy meals and preparing healthy snacks and lunches. I have vitamins for everyone. I take intense pride in my family being healthy and well fed.
The problem here, is that while I cook these healthy meals and prepare these healthy snacks, it isn’t always warmly received by my loving recipients.
Well, Cody eats everything I give him. That palate is golden. This kid still has the curiosity to taste everything and anything I am eating.
It’s the other two. They prefer to over indulge in Dino Nuggets drenched in ketchup. Also, they will sneak a little bag of peanut m&m’s or share a snickers bar right before dinner so they have no appetite.
Whatever. I win some and I loose some. I’m just exhausted. It just sucks when I’m going to bed and Connor is hungry. Like starving. He was full during dinner but now he’s starving so… I better feed him something if I ever want to hear the end of his hungry whine. Damn.
Then there’s breakfast which I make and I pack our lunches. Always 2 and sometimes 3. Dad still likes to eat out for lunch and hit up 7-11 for snacks. Sometimes I enforce a budget and I pack him a lunch.
The dog and cat eat too. They require food being poured in a bowl. They don’t hunt or catch their own food. Is that normal? Where are their survival skills? The cat actually does hunt and catches lizards, birds and plays with field mice but she doesn’t eat them. It’s just a game.
The strangest thing about eating and feeding people is you can’t ever “skip” this one. Also, it never stops. There is no break. We always eat.
What am I going to cook for dinner? Let me hop on Pinterest. Good night!